Managing Angry Thoughts & Words

                           Better to Keep Silent

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.  Proverbs 15:1

RECOMMENDED READING:  Proverbs 15:1-4A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly,But the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness. The eyes of the Lord are in every place,Keeping watch on the evil and the good.A wholesome tongue is a tree of life,But perverseness in it breaks the spirit.”

COMMENT:  Consequences of uncontrolled anger is well documented throughout history starting with Cain killing Abel and being cast out of his family and becoming a wondering nomad the rest of his life.  Even more unfortunate was Cain’s family enduring that same judgment for generations afterwards.

Angry words destroy marriages, parent – child –grandchild relationships, destroy business relationships, destroy friendships, and destroy personal and professional relationships…  Anger causes loss of joy and happiness, loss of income and possessions, loss of life and quality of life.  Anger impacts every one in every generation and every location and every age.   Anger generates energy to respond as well as emotion.  Anger can be productive if controlled and channeled to produce change but is never productive when uncontrolled or left to be channeled against another.  Revenge is never a good thing but channeled anger to stop or prevent hard can be good and needed.  So anger requires control and thought and support to be channeled properly.

Thoughts are just as important to control as actions.  Reason is thoughts always come before actions.  Granted, thoughts unrestrained can immediately go to action, which become “crimes of passion” or lapses in “sanity”.

A recent devotion spoke of Roger Dawson, a respected Business Negotiator, who provides life training for business executives to gain skills in negotiating good deals in tense settings.  Dawson’s advice is “Be careful what you say at the beginning.  If the other person takes a position with which you totally disagree, don’t argue.  Arguing always intensifies the other person’s desire to prove their right” regardless of evidence otherwise.

Solomon, 3000 years ago, endowed with unprecedented wisdom by God, gave us the words above recorded in Proverbs, which gives similar advice. 

Well, even though wise words relating to anger management are freely available from both secular and Christian literature and experts, where can we go to get foolproof help? 

Where can we go to not only get wise advice and instruction, but one on one help and encouragement and strength to gain control over anger?

Where can we go to find someone who will warn us and calm us when we become angry and weak?

The answer is the source of Solomon’s wisdom. The source of successful defeats of anger in every generation.  The source of positive transformed lives without charge or fee.  The source that is readily available and willing to devote 24x7x365 100% focus and His full resources to guide and walk us through victory over our anger.  That source is none other than God Himself.  His Holy Spirit was and is God’s abiding presence with all God’s resources and abilities and wisdom and experience fully available to use.  The only reason stopping Him from doing so is our invitation and willingness to let Him into our lives and our willingness to submit to Him and follow His council and conditions.   We must believe and know that He only has our best interest in mind and loves us sincerely and far more deeply than anyone else does or can. WE CAN FULLY TRUST HIM AND NEED TO IF WE EVER HOPE TO HEAL AND AVOID DAMAGE DONE BY ANGER AND AVOID FURTHER DAMAGE.

Gentle does not mean weak.  Peaceful doesn’t mean compliant.  Restrained doesn’t mean defenseless.  No, quite the opposite.   Jesus was neither weak, nor complacent, nor defenseless.

“Hot heads and cold hearts never solved anything.”   Billy Graham

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